Let’s talk about standards!

Imagine the love you could conquer simply by being self sufficient.

Hi there!

Today I wanna share with you how being self sufficient would attract the love that we always desire.

Well, have you ever spoke to someone and felt they are so captivating in the way they define themselves? And you were so distracted that you confused it with love?

We all did, I did too!

So when have you realised that you don’t feel the same anymore with them?

When have you realised that it wasn’t them you found interesting but an idea of that person?

Do you regret the time, emotions that you wasted on someone who wasn’t looking the way they appeared to be?

Have you answered the above questions?

If you did, now read ‘someone’ as if it’s you who people really didn’t find worthy holding on to.

Nah, not to demotivate you, but let us frankly go on a ride to start knowing the cost of not knowing that ‘You are the prize’ and ‘you are more than enough’ otherwise you will constantly be the reason why people keep ghosting you!

So if you look at it from both the sides, as in, like how you didn’t find someone so worthy enough to hold on to, the same way on the other side there is someone who didn’t find you as a package they would want to buy forever (It’s always good to accept that we are still ‘work in progress’ and accept that rejection is the only power that can level you up ASAP)

First of all, Ladies and Gentleman, Please understand that the whole world is running with one concept constantly that is ‘Seeking validation from others’ knowingly or unknowingly.

In the world full of such people, don’t we fall for someone over and over again who give no fucks to what others got to say, giving others no power to approve of them?

Most of the people are scared to find someone who knows their worth, and even more scared to lose them, because they know that with or without them they are so self sufficient.

Isn’t it sexy and classy to find someone are fully self constructed and live a quality life on their own?

Build in silent, people don’t know what to attack! (Cool isn’t it?). Stay mysterious and keep people excited to figure out what you are upto.

Don’t ever give power to others to even bring a slight negative emotion out of you for their behaviour or their words, learn to never react.. learn to detach the moment you feel attacked.

It makes people go crazy for two reasons: 1.) They know that they have no access to you. 2.) They can’t undo their behaviour or take back their words (because it didn’t work out for them to pull you to their level instead you kept yourself high).

Look guys, we are all flawed but it is never too late to fix yourself starting today.

Most of us lost self-esteem, our confidence, our attitude, our mental health, physical health and most importantly lost yourself just because you thought your imperfections can be used as an excuse to accept by others who are imperfect too. It is like choosing to be a mess with someone who is already a mess (haha).

Just because world tried calming you down by saying ‘we are all human, we are not perfect, we all have flaws’, you don’t have to carry it as a badge and a bag of excuse that you could showcase and open up everywhere. Start pulling yourself together, get your act right and go conquer yourself to the fullest that no one needs to play any part in your life necessarily to keep you full.

Without working on yourself with some strict disciplines in place, don’t expect your relationship to work out somehow (it would not suffice you for too long).

What I mean by self discipline is to start sorting out your thoughts by writing journal everyday, add quality, start a routine, work on your values by setting few, have your own rules.

And for those who didn’t answer the above questions, either you have not encountered such people yet or you are too lazy to count on your clarity.

I hope you will find this read helpful and Prepare yourself well in advance 😉