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The Present Moment Is The Only Living Promise.

How many times in life we provoked ourselves, broke ourselves, and suffered ourselves even when everything is absolutely perfect in the present? Do you understand how much of YOU are responsible for making your life so difficult?

The good news is that, if you could delete your name from the list of ‘people who are making your life difficult’, 80% of the problem vanishes, and the remaining 20% of difficult people exist in everyone’s life and that is inevitable, but still, you can handle them if you simply move that 80% of you from that list to the list of ‘people who makes you happy’.

TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME:

Make things easy for you by recreating an image of LIFE in your mind that looks easy and hassle-free. Start practicing to pull yourself back to the present moment every time you worry about the future or suffer something from the past.

Life is right now, right now as you read this post, at this moment and so I know I should make it worthwhile.

When you thinking or talking about the future, you are assuming that you gonna live for that long, you taking life for granted, and life doesn’t like that, not even you, nothing lasts long when you take it for granted.

In the same way, when you think about the past, you should understand that you cannot undo what has happened, the only way to help yourself from past suffering is by changing the way you look at what went wrong.

Let me give you an example:

If I was wronged by someone, my way of looking at it is changed by simply accepting that whatever happened has happened for my own good (yes, even if it feels insufferable with whatever happened) and then, everyday talk to yourself how far you have come because of that situation or person, and surely the experience is not gonna go in vain.

Don’t try hard to understand or analyze why’s and what’s, when the time is right, you will know it and it will make sense then.

Pull yourself into the present moment by looking at the present surrounding and know that you are in your control in the NOW state.

After all, experiences only come from bad experiences, but whereas, good experiences only remain as good memories.

WHAT HAPPENED WHEN YOU LIVE IN PAST OR FUTURE?

I love to talk about what happens when you live in the past or future. Either it is fear of yesterday or anxiety for tomorrow, the answer is the same and simple, You will suffer more in imagination than the reality, and that is a very damaging state to be in. Here is why, it is because, while you suffer in reality, you are already draining your mental and emotional energy in your mental state and you will be left no more energy to deal with it in reality.

And another reason why it is a damaging state is that sometimes what you feel in your imagination might not even happen but, by trying to prepare yourself for something that doesn’t even exist yet, you are setting your repeated emotion to uncertainty and fear.

NOTE ON DEALING WITH FEAR:

I dealt with fear for a very long time (and trust me nothing ever existed except in my own mind) and it really hampered my confidence in ways I can’t express in words. It is the worst facial expression, I mean, we don’t even look good with fear (hahaha).

Whoever is reading this now, I want to ask you what are your fear?

Let me tell you, If fear got any power, show me what is that you ever scared of losing ever stayed forever? And what is that you kept running away from never stayed?

As you answer this, I want you to make notes of all the reasons that you could think of that created certain fear, and that’s how one can find the core reason.

Once you figure out the reason, try finding a way to either face it or finish it. And yes, you can also talk to a therapist if required, perhaps it would work great for you.

PRESENT MOMENT:

Isn’t it a real gift to have such a promising moment from the universe/God whatever you call it, is this not what we keep seeking from other people, a promise that they would keep forever?

But when we don’t stay in the present moment, it only shows that we do not have a habit of appreciating even when someone keeping up their promises (God’s promise exists in the present moment). It only means that we will forever seek something which we don’t even know and that will take away the essence of our life gradually.

Practice developing faith in everything simply by holding on to a place called the ‘present moment’.

Imagine the love you could conquer simply by being self sufficient.

Hi there!

Today I wanna share with you how being self sufficient would attract the love that we always desire.

Well, have you ever spoke to someone and felt they are so captivating in the way they define themselves? And you were so distracted that you confused it with love?

We all did, I did too!

So when have you realised that you don’t feel the same anymore with them?

When have you realised that it wasn’t them you found interesting but an idea of that person?

Do you regret the time, emotions that you wasted on someone who wasn’t looking the way they appeared to be?

Have you answered the above questions?

If you did, now read ‘someone’ as if it’s you who people really didn’t find worthy holding on to.

Nah, not to demotivate you, but let us frankly go on a ride to start knowing the cost of not knowing that ‘You are the prize’ and ‘you are more than enough’ otherwise you will constantly be the reason why people keep ghosting you!

So if you look at it from both the sides, as in, like how you didn’t find someone so worthy enough to hold on to, the same way on the other side there is someone who didn’t find you as a package they would want to buy forever (It’s always good to accept that we are still ‘work in progress’ and accept that rejection is the only power that can level you up ASAP)

First of all, Ladies and Gentleman, Please understand that the whole world is running with one concept constantly that is ‘Seeking validation from others’ knowingly or unknowingly.

In the world full of such people, don’t we fall for someone over and over again who give no fucks to what others got to say, giving others no power to approve of them?

Most of the people are scared to find someone who knows their worth, and even more scared to lose them, because they know that with or without them they are so self sufficient.

Isn’t it sexy and classy to find someone are fully self constructed and live a quality life on their own?

Build in silent, people don’t know what to attack! (Cool isn’t it?). Stay mysterious and keep people excited to figure out what you are upto.

Don’t ever give power to others to even bring a slight negative emotion out of you for their behaviour or their words, learn to never react.. learn to detach the moment you feel attacked.

It makes people go crazy for two reasons: 1.) They know that they have no access to you. 2.) They can’t undo their behaviour or take back their words (because it didn’t work out for them to pull you to their level instead you kept yourself high).

Look guys, we are all flawed but it is never too late to fix yourself starting today.

Most of us lost self-esteem, our confidence, our attitude, our mental health, physical health and most importantly lost yourself just because you thought your imperfections can be used as an excuse to accept by others who are imperfect too. It is like choosing to be a mess with someone who is already a mess (haha).

Just because world tried calming you down by saying ‘we are all human, we are not perfect, we all have flaws’, you don’t have to carry it as a badge and a bag of excuse that you could showcase and open up everywhere. Start pulling yourself together, get your act right and go conquer yourself to the fullest that no one needs to play any part in your life necessarily to keep you full.

Without working on yourself with some strict disciplines in place, don’t expect your relationship to work out somehow (it would not suffice you for too long).

What I mean by self discipline is to start sorting out your thoughts by writing journal everyday, add quality, start a routine, work on your values by setting few, have your own rules.

And for those who didn’t answer the above questions, either you have not encountered such people yet or you are too lazy to count on your clarity.

I hope you will find this read helpful and Prepare yourself well in advance 😉

You will lose her if you don’t put up with her pace.

A woman who is on her feet, earns money, hard working and just not that it, but also supports you through in all the ways to level you up. It means that woman is independent and wants to grow up with you and only ready to depend on one man that’s you throughout her life by first being a part of your struggle and by being your mentor.

It’s like she formed a man from a boy to see herself grow ladylike and not just an ordinary girl.

Now when you are finally in a right place and successful where you struggled to be with all her support and investment of her time, energy, and love, she will still not be dependent though she have that choice. Instead she now wants to build an empire together. But listen you man, though she doesn’t depend on you, you will have to take the opportunity to match it up to what she deserves, though it was your seed it’s she who watered you, so when you grow up, give her all the fruits and flowers.. but here is the thing, when you don’t do that enough of what she deserves, you will start losing her slowly.. She might not ask you to do anything for her because she who believed in you when you are empty, believes you would do anything to keep her as a queen and she will not settle for less. When she packs herself up to walk out of your life, always remember that she worked hard to support you while you were still struggling to climb the first step. She worked on you with all herself not by depending on her family or by using others harden money, it’s hers. So if you lose her, its your loss and not hers. Everyone got a seed but it’s hard to find who waters and nourishes you.

If she could make you a man that she deserves, she can do it again😊 but this time not you again.

Everytime you identify your weakness, surprisingly it gets to happen more often where it-seems like a test on that particular weakness..
We mostly tend to fail to resist that weakness and that’s how we hamper our peace.
We start feeling lost in the process of making it a habit.
Now let us see in a way how lord plays a major role after you identify your weakness.
Yes, after you identify you will be given more of such temptations repeatedly to teach you resistance, but we often forget that and get us into a depth by repeating where we turn our weakness into a habit, and then we suffer that habit to a point where we no longer find it easy to turn back. while suffering it’s consequence, we remember lord and pray hard to fix everything that you no longer remember your weakness/reason but all that you will remember is how much your peace has been disturbed.
Always remember that lord will easily provide you with many such scenes immediately after you identify your weak point where it tests your weakness so that you have more chances to fix it and practice resistance before it could sabotage your true self.
The best period of time to kill a particular habit is during it’s weakest which is just when it all starts.
If you don’t know how to fix it while you see it repeatedly happening and can’t handle it, simply call upon lord to help fix it and you will find instantly how things change for your better.

[1 Corinthians 10:13]
There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

[Revelation 3:10]
Because thou hast kept the word of my patience, I also will keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world, to try them that dwell upon the earth.

[Luke 22:40]
And when He was at the place, He said unto them, Pray that ye enter not into temptation.

Certainly a hard time to stay motivated but yes it is an amazing time to turn yourself into someone you always actually wanted to be in your own space.
I always wanted to finish what i start, but because of our work lifestyle, it was certainly a little difficult to put up with your rules and areas to work on.
I am truly loving who i am becoming staying home during lockdown knowing all of us are actually on the same page..😉

So here are few of those by which i do spend my time to make my each day feel perfect before i sleep.
First of all, i don’t let my phone take all my space, so I don’t use(actively) any apps like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok so I don’t have them on my phone.
No it is nothing bad about it, it’s just that i know all these apps consume alot of my time and right now thats not how i want to spend so, I started reading those books which i stopped in between (my one of “finish what you start” concept). I always wanted to surprise my family by cooking some great cuisines like Pizza, pasta, egg puffs, salads and also baking cake, ice creams..few more and it is an immense pleasure to do such great service at home for our people.
I do workouts without fail and everyday at the same time😊
And one of my favourite thing to spend time is giving all my time mostly to God and making notes of the word i read., it feels so beautiful than i could describe in my words:)
Experiencing peace and joy from within. Celebrating life as i always do.
I want to encourage all my colleagues out there to really appreciate this time and take it as a gift to really become the best version of yourself.well, You particularly don’t have to have a habit list, if you just don’t want to do anything apart from simply chilling out and stay happy, certainly do so but make sure you are practicing to be happy just not from outside but most importantly from inside:) and if anything is coming in between you and your happiness, identify, write it down and surely have a closure 😊 trust me this lockdown is all worth it if you just work on yourself now.
Also I prepared a checklist to do in a day so that i will take time out to do everything i love every single day and i do debrief myself at the end of the day on how i can do better and find more joy in doing so.
I know we all do have reasons to spend all our day being disturbed but talk to yourself(you are your best coach) and ask how long it is going to take your attention and peace from living your best😊
Reach out to someone with whom you could speak out your heart. If you find none, please do reach out to me, i would really love to hear and help you out in any way possible 😊
Stay safe and stay with you😊

If you are overthinking about anything, you are taking the time’s job on your shoulders. Yes, because time got a perfect process to let us see what it is vividly and all that you gotta prepare is to accept the fact irrespective to if you like it or not.

When you overthink, you stress and when you stress , you are wasting a present moment which is the only thing to be sure about.

Why is it soo important to be in the present moment? Because it is the only guaranteed and a promised moment you would want to live for in certainty. The other day someone asked me this question let me ask you too, so if you won a lottery(not a big amount) of amount 86,400 rupees and while you are on your way to home, 10rupees note fly away, what would you do? Will you run behind that 10rupee note leaving the other amount behind? No right? You would think it’s just 10rupee and why would i leave my 86,390 rupees for that? Exactly! Did u know, in a day everyone of us are gifted with 86,400 seconds and out of which it would not even take 10 seconds for someone to rub their negativity against you and you waste your whole day(86,390 seconds) because of that.

Do you think it’s worth it?

Learn to leave the things that you can’t control to the time, it will unfold itself.

We are all mortal and you are here to take responsibility of yourself and not others because you came alone and you will die alone. In a human, more than an urge to live their life to the fullest, they are more filled with other emotions that would kill them even before they die and what is that kind of a life where you lost the essence of life itself?

Don’t try to understand anything too much..not even your own life! You will see life happening anyway.

It’s crazy how all of a sudden everything changed and anxiety doesn’t hit me anymore, it’s now getting difficult to be afraid and how thin i have become in thinking too many things at a time. Those things which i prayed for is on it’s own way and to which i do not pay much attention! Have i become stronger because it took enough time for me to learn to lead life all by my own because i had no other option or it got easier because I accepted the truth though it tasted like poison?

One day you will hear to the same thing but it will make sense and suddenly someone’s one word or a simple line will change your life.

We often convey message out to the world to most of the people who aren’t seeking that message, but when it reaches the one who gotta listen, it’s a message for you from a messenger. So do not try hard to get drawn to every pep talk, someone will certainly reach you to convey you what your soul needs to hear and that day you will set yourself free. Not every message is a message for you..when it is, you will know through your soul and actions.

MEDITATION

We all know the beauty of making someone smile, treating someone special, creating some fun space around, and other beautiful stuff that you could alone do without needing anything or anyone else. But what about difficult moments with difficult people in your life?

I recently realised something and I am excited thats truly fascinating and worth learning… Did you know that every individual have hell and heaven within them? Yes that’s true… here is how, controlling someone’s way of living or controlling their freedom is hell, and where as letting someone simply be the way they are is heaven. That’s it! Just start practicing allowing people to simply letting them be who they are no matter how difficult it is for you, and by time you will experience heaven within.

You might be wondering, perhaps you would want to ask “but they drive me crazy how do I experience heaven?” well, I understand the point but what I recommend here is that you need to detach yourself from other people emotions and actions because you already have your own emotions and actions to deal with.

Every time something that annoys you happen, simply focus on the present moment and say to yourself that the situation is happening outside of me (in a distance away from you with a person or group of people), the person is reacting there, or it is their voice, their mind, their action and you have nothing to do with it, keep guarding your mind and resist reactive behaviour. I totally empathise that it isn’t easy but only practice makes one perfect! It is always a gift to have difficult people in our circle, use them to push yourself to become best version of yourself.

WHY MEDITATION?

One way you could gift yourself a new set of perception or reaction is through meditation. Set up a new recording to react in every situation by sitting still, and train your sub conscious mind. Meditation is very effective to rewire your mind, by practising calmness. Calming myself down with repeated practice helped me to slow down to see things clearly by understanding what are the key issues I need to address instead of reacting out beyond than the size of situation with which I end up creating additional issues. We all need to understand that more than the actual situation, our reactive behaviour either causes more suffering or defuse the whole situation.

Example:

The other day, I had some disagreements with my friend, and that was almost leading to end our friendship (especially because of the reaction we r putting out unintentionally).

I took a deep breath and sat calmly allowing my friend to keep saying whatever she wants to and during this time, I said to self that the person who is provoking me right now is in a distance and started understanding that it is not even my mind, my emotion, my words, and I immediately detached my energy from her energy. I simply responded her by saying, Yes You must be right and I am sorry, can we just hug and calm ourselves down (I said it like I mean it)? Though she was hesitant as I suddenly pulled her up to my energy of calmness, she had nothing more to say because I replied by saying that I agree and that she was right, she was still looked heated but came close to hug me. We had a moment where we said to ourselves that our connection is much more deeper than this disagreement.

Defuse the detraction:

What did I do here? I let her win the argument, I gave her all the power by eliminating mine , I used my new reactive behaviour to defuse the situation because I understand that we are all defined by the energy we carry and not by our ego. When you look at every situation from a little distance, we will know exactly what to repair and how to respond without disturbing our inner peace.

If you don’t want to stress, do not give out stress. If you want peace, give out peace. What you want to happen to you has got a direct connection to what you give out. Simple!

HOW DO WE MEDITATE?

1. Preparation (Let your mind feel that you are preparing before performing meditation, Mind appreciates your every little effort before supporting you).

2. Make place a cozy corner (Your mind and soul loves calm place before you calm down intentionally).

3. Set your intention (To rewire reactions, breathing technique, calm down, release stress, open to receive answers to your prayer, to develop patience before facing a challenging day and many more).

4. Place either guided meditation or calm music depending on your intention

5. Sit and let go of all the stress.

6. Imagination is essential

7. Believe your intention is coming into reality during meditation

8. Try to write down whatever comes to your mind during meditation.

I am certain that if you read this far, you would as well make the most of it.

Few pointers to stay in magic forever:

STAY GRATEFUL

DO NOT JUDGE

DO NOT COMPLAIN

BELIEVE IT IS ALL LOVE AND YOU WILL RECEIVE LOVE.

I hope this read will bring that space within you to understand the importance of meditation and Why it is essential to meditate..

You could also check out this link below to understand more than this explanation.

https://management30.com/blog/meditation-is-important/

In life we all go through some situations where you wonder if you will ever get better or will you ever be able to move on because of someone or something. Listen, forget about what was right and what was wrong, simply let go! Yes, Let it go of anything that’s baffling you or if you don’t feel any better with it the way you believe you deserve to be treated. I heard one of my friend while he was sharing a story in which a frog was put in a normal temperature of water and as the temperature starts to increase, frog feel the water is boiling more and more by time and it keeps adjusting to it because frog thinks it can be managed by adjusting it’s body temperature accordingly..as the water starts generating more heat, the frog starts losing its capacity to adjust to the temperature and eventually jumps out of it, but by the time it jumps out, it also loses it’s energy to get back to normal and gradually it dies because frog has invested all the energy in adjusting for soo long that it is left with no more energy to survive when it finally jumped out! So the moral of the story is, you should let it go early so, you would still be left with energy to move on to live more life.
This story truly made me realise a lot of things before i could become helpless and hopeless. Don’t think about the society, family or friends, they are living their life the way they want without your approval, so it is better you too to live in your terms. Negativity wherever it comes from, negativity is always wrong said by a wise man. So don’t run behind those things which would not make you feel your life worth it if you have to die tomorrow. Eventually, everyone will forget you after a period of time so live to the fullest so you would free your soul from body at ease when the time is done😊

She: I don’t want to beg you but understand my pain behind my words. When i say get lost from my life, all i meant was to stay back and hold me tight. I am afraid and I don’t know where else to go apart from resting in your arms! I can’t beg you to pick me, but please pick me back and say it was a joke and that you would never leave me and go… STAY please!